50 Ways - Not.

"The problem is all inside your head, she said to me. The answer is easy if you take it logically. I'd like to help you in your struggle to be free. There must be 50 ways to leave your lover."
Paul Simon


Suppose the lover is not someone else, but the doer of love in the mind, the implicit lover we learned by example, wielding the kind of love that approves, judges, promises, teaches lessons, and gets hurt. Then by now we know we can't leave it, or at least it won't leave us, even if we have amnesia.

When we take on the illusion of love we pull the rug out from underneath all other appearances of illusion. One might wonder, when love can feel so good why would we want it to stop? Because love that is "good" requires poor examples of love in order to be recognized and known. In the words of another song, "love hurts".

The word "love" is charged with so much meaning, it is related to or implicated in the entire belief system. On a sliding scale, we were or weren't sufficiently loved when we were children. We grow up to love and care for one another as adults or we don't. Sometimes when we think we love deeply, then we're told we don't love sufficiently.

We either do or don't love jobs, vacations, god, housework, pets, clothes, friends, family, coworkers, cars, food, smartphones, movies, television shows, songs, the Big Bang Theory, everything. The love we do, just like the "I" we think, is not real, and isn't the same as the love that is nothing at all, or as all.

So, once again it is not about effort. In fact it is about letting go of effort and the kind of love that requires effort to give and receive.It's about being and in this case, being free of a lover that while faithful is always cheating us of True Love.

There is no need to go through the effort of 50 ways to leave your lover. When the kind of  "love" that has a charge comes up, "good" or "bad", let it be a blue bunny and refrain from associating with its conditions.  Practice the glove technique of not naming - in reverse. Don't name the memories and people or perpetrators of "love" in your life. Sit with the word and let it go empty of attachment/expectation associations.

Let your busy mind rest in the unconditional, pre-existent power that sources and supports all that is. Teaching it a new way to recalculate for True Love.  Then choose the focus of your affections wisely, without consideration or fear of loss, lack or limitation, and be That Love of Life.

Be lucid!

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